Boundaries are the highest form of love.  A boundary says “this draws a distinction between my outrageous love and your outrageous pain.  this is the place where they can meet.”  a boundary is the understanding that outrageous love and outrageous pain are one and the same.  It creates a space between them – made of their meeting – space for the winds of god to pass through.  Boundary is what separates Dhumavati from Lakshmi, SO that they can co-create more-ness.  More meeting of the two.  More Grace.