Boundaries are the highest form of love. A boundary says “this draws a distinction between my outrageous love and your outrageous pain. this is the place where they can meet.” a boundary is the understanding that outrageous love and outrageous pain are one and the same. It creates a space between them – made of their meeting – space for the winds of god to pass through. Boundary is what separates Dhumavati from Lakshmi, SO that they can co-create more-ness. More meeting of the two. More Grace.